Pay Now, or Pay Later

Pay Now, or Pay Later

Now or Later

I’ve been editing a chapter this week about a year when our son’s behavior was really spinning out of control.  Violent behavior, police interactions, juvenile detention, med changes, doctor changes  – and he was only nine.  It was a lot to manage.

I was able to do it because I had good health, a stable job, family support, and I’m intuitive about searching out solutions.  If you are lacking in even one of these things, I cannot imagine how you would manage the challenge of accessing the right resources for your child, finding a doctor, getting them to appointments, and managing their medications.

During the years our son was in self contained classrooms I witnessed not only the other children struggling but also their parents and the teachers.  The parents often didn’t know where to start looking for help and the teachers were overwhelmed managing behavior issues in the classroom while trying to teach.  Everyone limps through the school year managing each crisis as it pops up through a combination of suspensions, behavior management, and modifications to their educational setting.

You might be able to push them through to graduation but it’s not going to end well if the problems have not been addressed and managed early on. When you have extreme behavior issues at school it can lead to suspension.  When you have extreme behavioral issues as an adult it can lead to arrest and placement in a system not setup to manage mental health.  We all pay for that.

Schools need to be more proactive in managing support by developing a network of mental health resources in the community they can steer parents to.  Walk them through the options.  Provide an advocate.  Connect them with other parents facing the same issues.  Maybe something like the “emergency care hubs” Ohio is trying to setup  or classes like NAMI Southeastern Arizona is offering that teach effective skills and coping methods – what great resources!

The alternative is muddling along the way we have and pushing children through the system only to come out with a bigger problem on the other end.


Book Written. Check!

Book Written. Check!


It apparently took being unemployed to motivate me into finally writing a book.  I’d been thinking about it for a very long time.  After 19 years (yikes!) working as a Marketing Communications Manager my position was eliminated during a re-organization which left me more time on my hands than I’d had in a long time.

Part of those 19 years were spent raising two boys who are now 15 and 12. The oldest  is Autistic and Bipolar which brought its own challenges.  Not sure how I even managed my job all of those years since most of the time while he was young I was running from work to the school, or a psychiatrist, or another therapist to manage the “drama of the day”.

I kept a lot of notes during those years.  Lots and lots of notes. I had to keep notes to keep track of the constantly changing medications and doctors and appointments but it was also therapeutic in some ways to be able to write down what was happening and scream at paper instead of people.

So those notes have now worked their way into a book.  But, it seems writing the book is the easy part! Next hurdles – editing, marketing, publishing.

This is going to be interesting, but not half as interesting as the book.  🙂